What to do when you're new [electronic book] : how to be confident, comfortable, and successful in new situations / Keith Rollag.
By: Rollag, Keith [author.].
Contributor(s): American Management Association [issuing body.].
Material type: BookPublisher: New York, New York : AMACOM, 2016Copyright date: 2016Description: 1 online resource (259 pages).Content type: text Media type: computer Carrier type: online resourceISBN: 9780814434895 (paperback) ; 9780814434901 (e-book).Subject(s): Self-confidence | Interpersonal relations | SuccessDDC classification: 158.2 Online resources: E-bookItem type | Current library | Call number | Status | Date due | Barcode | Item holds |
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e-BOOK | MTU Bishopstown Library | Not for loan |
Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:
Blending stories and insights with simple techniques and exercises, this invaluable guide for the introvert will get you out of your comfort zone and trying new things in no time.
Whether you're changing jobs, joining a group, or moving to a new city, putting yourself out there in new situations is no picnic. Being forced to introduce yourself, having to ask questions among strangers, learning expectations of those around you--it's not fun for anyone! However, when we let our worries stop us from getting familiar with our surroundings and learning the dos and don'ts of our new environment, we seriously hinder our progress, joy, and the opportunities that await us.
In What to Do When You're New, you can discover the necessary skills to learn how to:
Overcome fears Make great first impressions Talk to strangers with ease Get up to speed quickly Connect with people wherever you goThis book combines the author's research and firsthand experience from having to adjust to a job transfer to Japan with that of leading scientists to explain why we are so uneasy in new situations--and how we can learn to become more confident and successful newcomers.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
Acknowledgments -- Success starts with being new -- Always a Newcomer -- Nature and nurture: the science of newcomer anxiety -- The power of practice and reflection -- Introducing yourself -- Remembering names -- Asking questions -- Starting new relationships -- Performing in new situations -- Giving back : helping others when they're new -- Get out there and succeed -- Notes -- Index.
Electronic reproduction.: ProQuest LibCentral. Mode of access: World Wide Web.
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Excerpt provided by Syndetics
ONE
SUCCESS STARTS WITH
BEING NEW
To achieve almost anything in life you have to put yourself into new situations. To have a successful career, you often need to change jobs and join new organizations. You get promoted into new teams. Sometimes you're transferred to unfamiliar cities and countries. Outside of work, you're new every time you go back to school for more education or join a new health club to get in shape. You're often a newcomer every time you take up a new hobby, go on a vacation over-seas, or check one more thing off your "bucket list."
In fact, it's nearly impossible to accomplish anything meaningful and important in life without at some point having to meet new people, learn new things, and take on new roles. And as a newcomer, how you think and act in those first few seconds, minutes, hours, and days matters. What you do when you're new often determines whether you will find the success, satisfaction, and happiness that drove you to be a newcomer in the first place.
The goal of this book is to help you become a more suc-cessful -newcomer--across all kinds of new situations. We'll explore the science of newcomer success and give you a set of strategies, techniques, and exercises to become:
• More productive and confident in your new role
• Better connected to new co-workers, classmates, group members, and neighbors
• Less anxious and awkward around strangers
• More willing to seek out those new experiences that make life interesting, rewarding, and fun
NEWCOMER SUCCESS: FIVE KEY SKILLS
I've been studying newcomer success for over twenty years. In the workplace, I have interviewed hundreds of new em-ployees in a variety of roles, levels, and industries. I have ob-served newcomers while they work, and have talked to their managers. I've also asked newcomers to keep journals about their first few weeks on the job and have conducted newcomer surveys across many organizations.
Outside of the workplace, I've interviewed newcomers join-ing schools, churches, neighborhoods, theater groups, health clubs, and even rock bands. I've interviewed college students moving into residence halls, and senior citizens moving into retirement communities. I've talked with people taking classes on everything from swimming, guitar, yoga, and skiing to beekeeping. Through these interviews I've been trying to un-derstand what successful newcomers do that allows them to have such positive, rewarding experiences. How do they get up to speed quickly? How do they integrate themselves into their new group? How do they get the information and advice they need to be productive in their new role?
I've discovered that the secret to newcomer success is no secret at all. It mostly comes down to our willingness and ability to do five key things:
1. Introduce ourselves to strangers.
2. Learn and remember names.
3. Ask questions.
4. Seek out and start new relationships.
5. Perform new things in front of others.
For most of us, these five skills are both the key to new-comer success and our greatest source of anxiety in new situations. For example, although we know that introductions are critical to getting connected, we are reluctant to approach and introduce ourselves to new people. We realize that remembering names creates a great "second" impression, but we discover we're unable to recall names when we meet people again.
We know that asking questions is often the only way to get the information we need, but we hesitate to bother busy, im-portant people. We understand that all work gets done through relationships, but we are reluctant to start and build new ones. Finally, we find ourselves anxious about performing our new role in front of unfamiliar people, even though we know that newcomers are expected to start out slow and make a few mistakes.